We are living in a world that is resolute to cure cancer. From the Cancer Moonshot to precision medicine, to liquid biopsies and the quest for earlier detection, to innovative technologies and cutting-edge equipment, to the incorporation of artificial intelligence (AI) to analyze the vast quantities of data generated daily: it is a full-on war to eradicate cancer. No one can doubt the wonder and excitement transpiring in the cancer space everyday. There is nothing better than reading reports of patients with terminal cancer attaining miraculous remissions, especially when all options were exhausted and all hope was seemingly lost. And yet, in the process of being full steam ahead to end cancer, we’ve lost sight of a few integral parameters in the cancer treatment paradigm. In the focus to eradicate cancer, patients’ sexual health and self-image have fallen off to the periphery and become the pink elephant in the room.
Cancer has a significant impact on patients’ sexual health and conceptions of self-image. Most cancer patients say that their doctors avoid talking about sexual health and self-image concerns and they don’t have the courage to mention it. Even the National Comprehensive Cancer Network’s (NCCN) website, under the topic “Sexual Health for Cancer Survivors” literally states “Doctors do not usually talk with survivors about sexual problems.” WHAT? WHY NOT? We need to do better. Cancer treatments are responsible for a broad spectrum of side effects. Hormone deprivation may cause a loss of or decreased libido. Chemotherapy may cause hair loss, nausea, vomiting, fatigue, and early menopause. Surgical procedures may leave the patient’s body manipulated, numb, reconstructed, and scarred. None of these are surprising or uncommon. Patients struggle with their new physical appearance and the emotional impact these changes impart. Patients’ partners may be afraid of hurting their significant other or may also struggle with how to deal with all of these new changes. Young or single patients may worry about the future of finding a partner after cancer and consequent intimacy and fertility issues. There are many options available to help patients improve sexual health and intimacy. But these issues need to be TALKED about. Many patients are reluctant to discuss their concerns with their doctors out of embarrassment. Most patients feel treating their cancer is the priority and they should feel lucky to be alive let alone trying to salvage intimacy and their self-regard. Doctors may mistakenly assume that if the topic was important, patients would start the conversation. This Valentine’s Day, let’s vow to escort the pink elephant out of the room, stop the stigma and tiptoeing around cancer patients’ sexual health and self-image needs, and bring better mental health and psycho-oncology support to our patients. Lord knows cancer patients need more love than ever.
Psycho-oncology and sexual health support services should not be regarded as a nice-to-have or a luxury for cancer patients currently undergoing or having completed treatment. They need be regarded as a right and better integrated into routine cancer care. Significant changes need to be made as to how we are treating and supporting cancer patients. In the same way that cancer patients can get their blood drawn on one floor, imaging done on another, psycho-oncology and sexual health support services should be readily available, with doors open and professionals and resources awaiting. Patients need the opportunity to discuss these concerns in a safe and welcoming environment during their appointments with their oncologist. Cancer centers need to create an open forum for addressing self-image and sexual health issues so as to normalize the problem. Let’s engage the expertise of thought leaders in cancer sexual health and survivorship to speak to patients in educational seminars or videos for patients to access and discuss with their care team. Perhaps nurses can assist in educating patients on the impact treatments may have on patients’ sexual health, fertility, and self-image. Let’s throw the door open and discuss products and tools patients should be utilizing. This is not taboo. This is a part of human life and only some of the consequences of this horrible thing called cancer. We need do better to ease the burden.
Let this Valentine’s Day be the icebreaker that encourages patients to talk to their doctors about how cancer is impacting their sexual health and self-image. Patients, you do not need to be ashamed and suffer in silence. Doctors, let this Valentine’s Day be the end to your reluctance to address the sexual health, intimacy, and self-image needs of your patients. Time to turn that pink elephant in your exam room into a cupid to foster self-love, love in relationships, and hopes for love in the future. Oh, and dear National Comprehensive Cancer Network, perhaps it’s time to revise the statement: Doctors do not usually talk with survivors about sexual problems. We are all adults here.